Youth are our most precious asset. It is alarming and troubling to learn about or live with young people who put themselves in harms way with risky behaviors such as the use of alcohol and drugs. The recent excellent and “sobering” series in the Northfield News is a harsh reminder that drugs are out there and some young people become victims. Instead of feeling hopeless and immobilized by these frightening situations, action can be taken.

Research and common sense tell us that parents (and other adults) who are connected with and talk with their children about what is happening in their day-to-day lives are better able to guide them and give them the tools and support they need to navigate this complex world. The details of the conversation change as children grow and mature, but must not stop. Pre-teens, teens, and young adults may seem to be pushing you away; but they absolutely need you to stay involved in their lives.

Below are a few examples of positive action. Learn more on numerous helpful websites- one of these is: http://www.drugfree.org/

1. Communicate:

• Maintain open and honest dialogue. Be a good listener. Avoid lecturing.
• Be clear about values and expectations in regard to alcohol and drug use and communicate these to your children.

2. Monitor and Stay Involved

• Know where your child is and who they are with. If plans change, ask them to let you know.
• In partnership with your teen, develop clear consequences for drug and alcohol use. Follow through with the consequences, but also make sure your teen knows he/she can call on you for help at any time.

3. Teach by example:

• Model responsible use of alcohol and/or prescription drugs in your own life.
• Never purchase or provide alcohol for teens, no matter what!

4. Stay connected with your own children, and their friends. Talk openly with other parents about concerns and questions. Support parents whose children may be engaged in risky behaviors—without judgment or blame.

Sometimes despite the best communication and guidance, young people get in trouble with alcohol or drugs; parents and others close to them may not be aware this is happening. If the drug is addicting, the young person can easily get “hooked” and find themselves in a dangerous place.

Parents and families are not the only ones who have a role to play. Youth can do many things to support each other. That includes telling a trusted adult if you are concerned about a friend who may be using. Schools, faith communities, law enforcement, and youth organizations also have a key role. Sometimes parents and families are not able to provide all of the nurturing, caring environment young people need; other caring adults or a mentor can provide valuable support.

Keeping our youth healthy and safe is the responsibility of everyone. Each of us has a part to play; together we can provide a healthy safe community for our youth.